Ok, ok, ok, before I get into it, let me first state, if I hear another independent woman song, I'm going to go animal. Considering the fact that it is more females in the world, more males in jail, more women in college, I think we need more independent men. But that's another issue. I'll leave that one for Barack.
Now, to the first order of business......the question asked to me was, "If a woman makes more cash than me, would it bother me"? My response, "Show me the money!" Hell no it wouldn't bother me. Actually it will help me, it will motivate me to make more money, then that will motivate her to make more, then I will make more money....you get the picture. Show me the man that does not want a financially successful woman, and I will show you a fool. And if you know him, tell him I said it. Na, just kidding, but seriously every man should want a successful woman. To me, this is a non-issue. But the reality is that a lot of women have either been in or are in relationships that are strenuous because their counterparts cannot accept the fact that their woman makes more cheddar. I'm shaking my head as I type this. This must be some new type of insecurity. Well here's my bold opinion on why this is an issue amongst couples.
In my life I have been very fortunate to meet some amazing people, especially women. But sometimes when people are so accomplished and successful, they think their chit don't stink. What's wrong with a lot of us is that when we see a problem in any kind of relationship we are involved in, we rarely look at ourselves. We rarely ask "What am I doing wrong", "What are the things that have changed about me?" Yes, the money has changed, the pockets are fatter, but women, did you change too? Now I admit, some of us men are sensitive, and the money alone will bother us. But the real problem comes in if that woman acts a certain way because she makes more money. She walking around giving orders, not cleaning up after herself, leaving the toilet seat down, stuff like this. "Baby, I don't know what it is, but you weren't like this when we met". The last thing a "real" man wants to feel is inferior to his woman. Once a woman begins to act like the "man", tension will present itself. So, its not the money, its what the money represents. I know its a new day, and women are now doing things that men have been doing for a long time, but women at least act like you're staying in your lane.
Before you read the rest of this and falsely prejudge me, I would like everyone to know that I DON'T SUPPORT PIMPING, but I do respect the power a pimp has and the confidence that comes with it. Do you think it bothers a pimp when he knows that his prostitute is "really" making all the money. No it does not because at no time does he feel inferior. Now I'm not saying men go out there and smack your women and talk down to them, but a man who makes considerably less than his woman has to have a pimp mindset. He has to understand that money is money and its not always a direct correlation with leadership. So men who are into traditional relationships and used to the man running the show, guess what, the man can make less and still run the show. There's no need to run after the first few weeks of dating when your candidate for relations starts funding all the dates. Sit back and enjoy it. Obviously she likes you and she probably does not want to run the show. Man up and do your job. And please, please don't play yourself and go broke trying to keep up with her, trying to take the check after she grabs it. She knows you can't afford it, that's why she grabbed it.
Friends, let me know what you think.
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