OK, I met this guy a few weeks ago who said he was considering going back to school for plastic surgery. From conversing with him, I learned that apparently there are more potential clients for plastic surgery than there are plastic surgeons to service them. “Are you serious?” I’m not surprised, yet I am. Everything else these days is twisted, why wouldn’t there be a high demand for cosmetic plastic surgery. The world hasn’t gone mad, but the people in it have definitely lost their minds. Unless you had the Tom Cruise in Vanilla Sky, beat it with that chit. Similar to marriages and divorces, Hollywood’s influence on changing faces and other places has apparently spilled over to the common folk. All I have to say is, “look at yourself”.
If she has fake body parts, tell her to "beat it". I don’t care if she looks like Stacy Dash, I don’t want anything to do with her. In fact, my bold statement of the day is “Man is entitled to know if a woman he is dating is packing fake face, boobs, buttcheeks, or any other skin and bones”. And he deserves to know this right after the woman decides to give him her phone number. Call me crazy, delusional, I don’t care. Somebody save me a fistful of tears. If she can get away with it, the only thing a woman should be allowed to hide is her new eyes or her new weave.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure my way of thinking is not a consensus amongst all men. Some men are only concerned with the finished product. And that’s fine if that’s what a guy is in to. Unfortunately, you're going to have to count me out.
If I were well versed in the health ramifications or side effects, I would use them to help my case. But, it seems pretty obvious that there has to be something mentally wrong with someone who feels they should get cosmetic surgery. I mean Dennis Rodman wrong. Mel Gibson wrong. Terry Jones, well you get the picture. Maybe I will consider allowing a lift or maybe a reduction of the girth of the 16xd’s, but those are the only exceptions. If a woman or even the man sponsoring the change thinks that this leads to happiness, they better be ready for the rest of the operations that follow, because they will be searching for a long time. Happiness is making the most of what you have. And my happiness will be destroyed if after years of commitment I found out my girl has been nipped and tucked and it wasn’t by me.
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I think if a person wants to have a lil surgery to make them feel more confident about themself then they should do it. b/c honestly spanx can ONLY keep you looking great until you take those suckers off and then next thing you know... PLOP your ass is on the floor!
ReplyDeleteI'm not for surgery however the few women I know who have children have a sad state of affairs when it comes to their breast now resting on their thighs! I do not want to have surgery but if my breasts aren't appealing after i've finished breast feeding my children then i will be getting a nip and a tuck! no implant but a DEF lift! other than that I believe you should work for what you want. Some people will never get the shape they desire and then they have to decide if they want to accept what their body is capable of or whether they want to go under the knife. I do NOT think they should lie about it however b/c that's just decietful for no reason at all! lol
Oh it's also MY opinion that you shouldn't change your facial features. What do you tell your child? how do you teach your child to have confidence and appreciate how they look when you couldn't do it? but that's MY personal opinion.
To each his or her own...Nip and tuck or just stuff and suck (in)!
Once again, a topic I've never heard this thoroughly addressed between sexes. Thumbs up for originality!
ReplyDeleteI feel this subject should be left up to the individual. I dont feel strongly one way or the other. I have to compete with women all the time who are advocates of the aforementioned, and I do so without "hating". They do them, I do me, and we'll see what happens. In all honesty, she DOES compete with me, for the following reasons:
1. Men's physical and sexual tastes are horribly irrational and I recognize that. If you ask one what his tastes are/and why, he will stumble over his words. He doesnt even really know, but he knows "Shanaynay" would be unbearable. Some revelation.
2. Even if they claim to (and maybe they do) prefer women without all the extensions, drastic alterations, etc. Most of you cant even tell the difference anyway. And, if they did, like she's getting kicked out of their bed, yeah right. If she manages to get in there and work it, she's in (at least for awhile).
So, I dont become bitter over it. Men are men, and "fronters" WILL get the attention they are looking for. The one caveat, is that they'll never win a woman-to-woman battle. I know when someone's got a weave in, when their eyes are naturally brown, and when that bra or butt is surgically enhanced or full of "chicken cutlets". So, when their eyes approach mine, it's never a battle. All an all-natural woman has to do is smile like she may be thinking of saying "Yes. I just look like this." and "Miss.Hair did, Nails did, Everything did" will immediately take her arrogance elsewhere.
Naturally attractive women, It's a filthy game. Whataya gunna do? Just keep your swag on high! It's their Acheilles' heel. If you're confident, what no other women is doing should really matter. Want to be a stronger competitor? Hit the gym. She's doing what she's gotta do. Sitting around stuffing your face with Flan or out-of-the-box Yellow cake with Cream Cheese frosting, while watching "The Game" is only making her look better.
Bottom Line: If it wasnt working, women wouldn't be resorting to it. Ms."I Paid For it, So It's Mine" gets her shot too. I know this, you know this, and she knows this:-)
Be what you are and celebrate the results!
ReplyDeleteYes, everyone has a right to put rims on a Rogue or tint the windows, but why??? When the car is being purchased/driven/sold, do you say...."those rims are not factory made and that tint is too dark, both are not original!" Simply, keep your car clean and spend a little to ensure the car you purchased/drive is the "freshest" on the block. What am I saying, hit the gym, eat right, pamper yourself extensively, read, walk w/ a head held high, exfoliate your face/back/chest, be optimistic and your old Rogue will become a vintage, antique car: highly sought out and truly appreciated. Granted, a few cars may have their rims taken/damaged or car stolen, so a few alterations maybe necessary. Ladies who go may overcome breast cancer or some idiot being abusive, surgery maybe necessary to restore. However, western culture makes people, especially women, soooo self conscious about there GODLY appearance. What's troubling are women who change every year with every new man, hoping to attract more attention or keep the attention they have, emulate the latest Jet magazine cover or whatever reason used, becomes a viewed as a gateway drug to an addiction that will never be met! Please tell someone (at some point), what you see is not what it is! Confident women who maintain their value as they age...PRICELESS!
Btw: If you're wearing Body Magic, no more surprises!!!
There is nothing more beautiful than a natural women. And there is nothing that turns me off more than a Mrs. Potato Head chic. Media has young woman thinking they need to be weaved, glammed up to get a guy, the same way these fake "rapctors" (rapper+actors) make these lames max out their credit cards to pop bottles to impress Mrs. Potato head.
ReplyDelete1) Weaves - Some women have thinning hair so if you have a track for a little volume that's understandable, but Beyonce weaves down your back are a no no. I don't want to see rough edges followed by a silky smooth mane that's "suppose" to be yours. You're insulting my intelligence.
2) Eyelashes - #FAIL. next.
3) Wigs - Tell me your a lazy mofo, your apartment is probably filthy and your cootchie probably looks like the amazon jungle. I go to the barber shop every week and I take time to wet my hair, load up on DAX pomade and brush with 2-3 different brushes, brush for 7 to 12 minutes, tied it down with the doo-rag, throw the stocking cap on just so I can be spinnin. You can take time to do your hair too. Wigs are totally unacceptable unless you're Nicki Minaj,who I love with all my heart, or a chemotherapy patient
4) Boobs - Ask anyone who know me, I LOVE TIDDAYS, so fake ones are a smack in the face. Fake boobs are the most repulsive alteration a woman can do to her body. They don't look, feel or dare I say taste natural. Stay away from me.
5) Booty - I think this whole "she got a** implants" has gone too far and quite frankly I don't believe it. Also, I particularly don't care. See #4
6) Nails - If you're over 30, stop. For me, when I see a woman with a manicure and her natural nails ever so squared and polished "ballerina slipper" pink, makes me look at her in a whole different light. You can get invited up
Bottom line, real recognize real and a real dude might mess with a blow up doll for the moment, but there's nothing like a "stock" woman. No additions, alterations or silicon. I understand you have that pouch after 3 kids that you can't lose. Or your breast don't sit up anymore. For these woman I sympathize with you and nip away. Bring your sexy back. But when you start adding things you never had, you're going too far. And if you find yourself doing it to attract a man, you're doing it for all the wrong reasons.
It is so ironic this topic is on the table. My best friend and I were just talking about this last night.
ReplyDeleteMy personal take on it is an individual has the right to do whatever they want to make them happy. Whether it's implants of any kind, hair weaves, make overs, whatever. All I say is do it for YOURSELF!!!! Never do it to be accepted in society or by someone of the opposite sex. As our fearless writer of this blog pointed out, when one does it for those superficial reasons, then something is definitely wrong. No amount of plastic surgery can heal scars of self-unworthiness and self-unacceptance. I had a friend who actually said maybe getting a weave and plastic surgery will help her find a man. My mind flipped!!! I'm like, no weave or plastic surgery is going to determine your worth to a man. Yeah, he may be esthetically turned on, but if you don't have the self-confidence and self-assurance to go with that new face and hair, you may get the man, but you surely won't keep him. I am a firm believer in "see me, love me"...if not, keep it moving so that the next one who will can occupy that space.
Enhancement to make one feel a little better or to give themselves some spark back is one thing, but to change who you are to gain outside acceptance is a prescription for the Psychologist, not the Plastic Surgeon.
But another thing my BFF and I discussed more so on this particular topic are men who say what they don't like and can't stand about a woman, but then you turn around and see them with that exact woman LMAO!!! I can't count how many times I've heard a man say, "I can't stand a woman with a weave...I can't stand a woman who wears too much make up...I can't stand a woman with fake boobs and behinds", yet they salivate over the Beyonces, Nicki Minajs, and Melissa Fords of the world. Even worse, those same women they so called can't stand, they show up with them on their arms. I remember being on tour with a member of what Wendy Williams like to call "the Dirty Back Pack Clique" (the conscious rappers). This person PREACHED about natural women and their natural hair and their natural no make-up beauty and says that's who deals with only. Not only did dude's fiancee' have a weave, fake nails, and fake contact lenses, but the side chick he was smashing had not only fake nails, but fake toe nails as well, on top of her weave and fake boobs.
So, I say all this to say...ain't nothing wrong with plastic surgery or enhancements if it makes YOU feel better and for the dudes who don't like it, no worries...move on to the next chick that suits you and leave that sista be for the dude who doesn't care as much about it. But for the dudes who say they don't like it...be real with yours. Don't let me hear you preach and then see your hypocrisy.
I also I believe that this is a very good topic. Its a big "Uprising" in this new phenomenon of getting it fixed yourself. I'm a person that believes in free will so in saying that I believe you should be able to do whatever you want to do with your body.
ReplyDeleteHowever in these times we live inn nip & tuck are happening at a all time high which in some cases are laziness and just plain out ridiculous. Since surgery over the last decade has became more popular than ever. I wonder does that mean that more and more people are not comfortable with them self. I mean I see a lot of bigger boned woman having gastric bypasses..and their whole life changes,however this procedure as research shows brings more procedures it becomes an addiction to stay at the size your act which can be a health risk and mental risk for that matter.
We all would just love a all natural woman. Real hair, nice skin, good figure,lift the sheet nice feet (Boomerang). That's not how the world goes unfortunately..what we have are woman like lil kim who was natural that went surgical and looks muppet like. What lil kim brings is the urban pass for our young angels to get surgery on parts of their body that they think would make their life different. Like the term "If I have a better booty ill have a better man"."If I had better breast ill get thru a few more doors"."if Kim Kardasian can get paid to do nothing I can too" This explains the ridiculous notion I made for having surgery for other than physical reasons. These usually seem to be woman Who put wigs, weaves, and aluminum on they head to give them a better public appearance. So do we give these woman the boot because of their will to look better or we embrace them for being creative. Sometimes what your "mama" gave you isn't what you want or what anyone else wants.
Samantha, I gotta disagree witcha on one point: I know at least my cirle - Mighty, Este, and so on - can tell when they're in the presence of a 100% Organic, or a complex polymer. Like DR said, real recognize real. I am absolutenly NOT a fan of plastic surgery (except for necessary situations). I don't even like cosmetics! I mean, a lil light makeup is ok, and by all means, take care of your damn nails, shit! But too much foundation/lipstick/blush is a microcosim of a much bigger issue. Ladies, we ain't kissin or touchin you till you wash your face! I wanna see the real you, othawise, we might as well date in the dark.
ReplyDeleteI think a dude who knows better wouldn't shut a woman down because of a post-birth stomach, or imperfections with her complexion, or stretch marks. Safe to say, there's something about dem same stretch marks that subconsciously turns him on! Why?? Because its REAL! And, when we see em, we know what's about to go down!
Pabvon........stuff & suck?? AYO!!!!
Thanks for the post guys. Was about to comment and realized, I probably need therapy. (not because I want surgery just to not feel washed up :/ maybe I need a tuck) I didn't really think so until I read this. Body image slash esteem are the most sensitive topic.
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